I’m not about to @ people for having kids, but I have to say that in my experience, the whole idea is nothing but a conceit. People want kids for bad reasons. There’s really no sensible reason to have a child in the human world. Fine, go have kids, but don’t come back years later upset your kid is rebelling or not following your beliefs or doing bad things or not following in your footsteps or listening to your advice or whatever the fuck. You basically played a slot machine with no jackpot.
I have two kids, and I had them so that I could raise good, caring people to continue society, and because I enjoy being able to nurture them to reach whatever goals they want.
I want my kids to rebel. I want my kids to think for themselves. I’m an atheist, and my kid wanted to learn about Christianity, so I took them to church. I don’t need my kid to “follow in my footsteps,” I want them to do whatever they find fulfilling.
The best part of parenting is not knowing what to expect and watching what they’ll grow into. You’re right, to a degree, about the slot machine, but you’re wrong about there being no jackpot.
But if you get no enjoyment from that, by all means, don’t have kids. In fact, if you’re on the fence or unsure, don’t have kids. The default should absolutely be no kids unless you’re really sure that’s what you want.
I’m not about to @ people for having kids, but I have to say that in my experience, the whole idea is nothing but a conceit. People want kids for bad reasons. There’s really no sensible reason to have a child in the human world. Fine, go have kids, but don’t come back years later upset your kid is rebelling or not following your beliefs or doing bad things or not following in your footsteps or listening to your advice or whatever the fuck. You basically played a slot machine with no jackpot.
Jesus Christ what a depressing take.
I have two kids, and I had them so that I could raise good, caring people to continue society, and because I enjoy being able to nurture them to reach whatever goals they want.
I want my kids to rebel. I want my kids to think for themselves. I’m an atheist, and my kid wanted to learn about Christianity, so I took them to church. I don’t need my kid to “follow in my footsteps,” I want them to do whatever they find fulfilling.
The best part of parenting is not knowing what to expect and watching what they’ll grow into. You’re right, to a degree, about the slot machine, but you’re wrong about there being no jackpot.
But if you get no enjoyment from that, by all means, don’t have kids. In fact, if you’re on the fence or unsure, don’t have kids. The default should absolutely be no kids unless you’re really sure that’s what you want.
Just because you struggle to have a normal relationship, doesnt mean we all can’t.