Obviously yes. Plus fresh dill, and they have to be NJ beefsteak tomatoes. On toasted potato bread.

First of all, it’s great that you recognize unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior in yourself. That’s a great first step!

That said, a few thoughts:

• You’re not ready for a relationship - and I don’t say this to be mean, but you seem too immature for a relationship, especially one with the added challenges of being long-distance.
• Based on your responses to other comments, she is also too immature for a relationship.
• You created what’s called a ‘covert contract’ - meaning you had unspoken expectations which is almost a guarantee that the other person will let you down because you didn’t communicate with them. Unless both of you agree to plans, you don’t have plans.
• I think you need to shift your main source of socializing from the internet to IRL. The internet is great and everything but it’s not the same a real life, and I worry that too much internet socializing can stunt your real life social skills, making it harder to connect with people down the road.

You sound pretty young so I’m assuming some of this is just young kid angst and will smooth out over time. Good luck!

Last book I read was Bee Speaker by Adrian Tchaikovsky. I normally love his stuff, and I loved both Dogs of War and Bear Head, but Bee Speaker was awful. Such a disappointment.

Currently I’m reading Old Man’s War by John Scalzi.

Oh man I loved This Is How You Lose The Time War!

Pragmatic answer: grilled chicken breast

Wishful answer: quiche!!!

Shropshire blue 🩵💛🧀

Aw Bear is so cute

It looks like this has been deleted, but uou just posted a question in a parenting community asking how to talk to your son about puberty. He’s twelve. He needs personal space and privacy, and he definitely needs to be sleeping in his own bed. Imagine how awful and confusing it would be for him to have a wet dream while in bed with you.

Please set a boundary here for his own good. And get to the bottom of why he can’t sleep.

Also I feel like you’ve posted about this before?

Please tell Emily she’s beautiful and give her noggin a scritch for me :)

Is this a serious question?

Look if you don’t care about your health, you can crash diet, sure, but you’ll lose water weight first, and then will lose muscle alongside the fat, especially if you don’t exercise. You will also feel miserable and will make others feel miserable being around you. And you’ll most likely pack it back on when you quit the diet.

OP said no exercise.

I bet Gary has some great toefeathers

That’s good news! Hopefully you have a speedy recovery and are back visiting Sandy soon :)

It’s so intense, what does it mean

Hooray for yeeting the ute! Did you keep your ovaries, and either way, are you going to start HRT to stave off early menopause? From what I understand, in a hysterectomy the blood flow to the ovaries can get disrupted and they might not function as well, so you start meno earlier than you otherwise would’ve.

I cannot explain the man lol ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Yup my husband likes Tyler Childers too, but I don’t care for him. I don’t think I’ve heard of Jason Isbell.

But to each their own! I love pop music from the '60s and my husband’s not nuts about it. Like Sly and the Family Stone say, different strokes for different folks. :)

I don’t generally drink soda but when i do, birch beer is my favorite; second favorites are Dr. Pepper, cream soda, and cranberry ginger ale.

Country music. That twangy sound is super grating to me, I hate the way certain vowels get stretched out, plus I have no cultural touchpoints with it on either a lyrical or musical level. The stuff that seems most popular is the most obnoxious to me. I’m told this is “the Nashville sound”. Different strokes for different folks, but I sincerely don’t get the appeal of it.

But there’s some country-adjacent music that can be alright. E.g., my husband got really into Sturgill Simpson and I ended up more or less liking his Sound and Fury album, even if some of the vocals do have that irritating twang. I guess I’d consider that more like country-infused rock.

And I guess some older country can be OK once in a while - e.g., Johnny Cash, Dolly Parton.

Happ purrday lil dude!