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don’t keep sweatin’ what I do 'cause I’m gonna be just fine

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Cake day: December 19th, 2023

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  • I keep my house very clean, and when the weather allows I open windows to let in fresh air. I also have reed diffusers throughout my house to add a little scent. IMO the key is to choose one scent for your whole house so that it smells cohesive, and to choose a scent that is mild, not too artificial or overwhelming. Right now I’ve got the Life in Lilac diffusers in Peppermint Bliss and they smell great. All I have to do is flip the reeds once a week.

    You might also be going nose blind to the febreze plug-ins if the scent is disappearing after a couple of days.







  • First of all, it’s great that you recognize unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior in yourself. That’s a great first step!

    That said, a few thoughts:

    • You’re not ready for a relationship - and I don’t say this to be mean, but you seem too immature for a relationship, especially one with the added challenges of being long-distance.
    • Based on your responses to other comments, she is also too immature for a relationship.
    • You created what’s called a ‘covert contract’ - meaning you had unspoken expectations which is almost a guarantee that the other person will let you down because you didn’t communicate with them. Unless both of you agree to plans, you don’t have plans.
    • I think you need to shift your main source of socializing from the internet to IRL. The internet is great and everything but it’s not the same a real life, and I worry that too much internet socializing can stunt your real life social skills, making it harder to connect with people down the road.

    You sound pretty young so I’m assuming some of this is just young kid angst and will smooth out over time. Good luck!







  • It looks like this has been deleted, but uou just posted a question in a parenting community asking how to talk to your son about puberty. He’s twelve. He needs personal space and privacy, and he definitely needs to be sleeping in his own bed. Imagine how awful and confusing it would be for him to have a wet dream while in bed with you.

    Please set a boundary here for his own good. And get to the bottom of why he can’t sleep.

    Also I feel like you’ve posted about this before?