• volvoxvsmarla @lemm.ee
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    For lack of a better term, girly content, and parent content. I miss A Bra That Fits, Big Boob Problems, Makeup Addiction, Babybumps, New Parents. And all those small weird (more or less) niche stuff like Minithreats or Accidental Swastika or Moldy Interesting.

    But I am still getting used to Lemmy and figuring out how this works, so maybe I have just not found the right communities yet. Searching for them and adding them is so confusing.

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    Many communities exist, but mostly on paper.

    What I haven’t found yet is something substantial and informative like /r/askhistorians.

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      Be the change you want to see. I noticed that every time I post even a small thing on those empty communities, people come and contribute.

      It’s mostly an empty dancefloor issue, nobody wants to be the first

      The other day I linked an interesting perspective on AI on [email protected] , hopefully those kind of exchanges happen more and more

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    I miss communities that I can ask a question to. When I have a problem with a plant, or a legal issue in Japan, or a question about bike brakes… It’s nice to have someone to talk to about it that knows more than I do.

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    A lot of country- or city-specific subreddits either aren’t on here or are quite inactive. To be honest they were mostly cesspits on Reddit so maybe it’s no bad thing but you occasionally found useful information there.

    Other than that, there were a few subreddits that were good for recipe ideas, like /r/EatCheapAndHealthy. /r/ZeroWaste was good too, on occasion.

    In general, non-tech related communities don’t seem to have migrated over as much. Most of the subreddits I followed were related to technology in some way and now have pretty active communities on Lemmy.

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    Legaladvice, askdocs, hiphopheads, and all the covid care communities like masks4all, crboxes, longcovid subreddit

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        The Herman Cain award made me sad. It’s people who are just the right mix of stubborn, alienated, uneducated, and gullible to dig their heels into something that really made no sense. And then dying because of it.

        I wish I was smart enough to find a way to help them instead, but I always get too frustrated talking with them before I even begin to get close.

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    I miss having large and active subreddits for the sports teams I follow. They were my primary source of news for the teams and game day threads were great.

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      There is a cycling community that copies the reddit posts, but theres too few people to discuss anything with…

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    Transphobia free content is what I miss most. Ever since the reddit influx, there’s been a huge rise in transphobia

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      It’s not so strange is it? It’s not like most people feel comfortable around trans people. It took a very long time before even black people were treated normally.

      I don’t actually like the term phobia either. People are not “irrationally afraid” . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.

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          No idea what you even mean with that. Did you expect a response with “oh that’s strange, I’m sure everyone is really comfortable around trans people these days”.

          They just aren’t.

          I think instead of being hostile against people who admit they are not comfortable, maybe try to help and be a friend instead so people can start to understand that there is nothing to fear?

          Trans people started one of the first mastadon instances and one of the first Lemmy instances as well. I think that’s really cool, and I don’t get why you would drop a oneliner with some kind of witty response when you can actually communicate with people here.

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            Hah, I love it.

            It’s natural that you’re hostile to me, because you’re uncomfortable, but me, I need to suck it up and be friends with you, despite you making me uncomfortable, because as the person you’re “uncomfortable” with, the responsibility is all mine. You just sit there awaiting passive education, and feel guilt free dishing out your “discomfort” until then.

            When I said I miss the transphobia free days of lemmy, that’s what I was talking about. Because this conversation we’re having right now wasn’t a thing even a few months ago.

            Trans people started one of the first […] Lemmy instances as well.

            Yes, I’m one of those trans people…

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        Someone recently killed another person because they thought they were trans (they weren’t) I would definitely call that irrationally afraid. Maaaaybe you could put it up as an extreme case but shit like that does happen. Trans people are afraid for their lives my dude.

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          I understand. Isn’t that even more of a reason to connect to people here?

          Should we just not talk to them? Leave them alone so they don’t get scared by our comments?

          I would rather see them as part of the community like anyone else.

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            No.

            Transphobia, homophobia, racism, misogyny, and other hate-driven viewpoints do not thrive in darkness and get disinfected by sunlight. They thrive by being promoted and normalized when people have the opportunity to be hateful in public.

            These are not intellectually assumed positions. They’re not something that can be defeated by debate. The publishing of the Protocols of the Elders of Zion does not contribute to the elimination of anti-semitism - it fosters it. It’s not like someone publishes Protocols and Jews cry out “At last we can debate whether or not we’re engaged in a plot to destroy civilization!” Trust me on that one.

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              I’m arguing that Transphobia is not hate driven, not for the majority of normal people anyway. They just don’t feel comfortable and wants to avoid trans people because of that.

              It’s human nature to want to avoid situations that makes us uncomfortable. That being said, of course there is a minority of haters. But it’s far from being the majority. The majority don’t even want to deal with it and they just avoid it.

              And I would welcome if trans people would start joining conversations like this one without assuming that everyone is out to hurt them.

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                I’ve been following this thread and it’s been your comments that I need to remove. I applaud your willingness to have the discussion and learn but this is not the place. I can’t mod this discussion enough to keep people safe and it’s dreadfully off topic. I don’t know where the best place is to have this conversation but it’s not here.

                I know I’m being heavy handed here. This is such a sensitive topic and I am trying to err on the side of keeping people safe. If there was a better way to handle it, I’m open to the discussion.

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                Substitute a race-based term for trans in your statement - that “normal” people don’t feel comfortable around black people because they just want to avoid them - but it’s not racism.

                You might not feel comfortable around terms that have a specific meaning - like transphobia - but you should at least recognize that you’re redefining them to make yourself feel okay about them. What you’re describing is, in fact, transphobia. It is exactly analogous to feeling uncomfortable around black people but not wanting to label it racism.

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                  You make a good point but I don’t agree it’s transphobia still.

                  We pick people to be around from a number of reasons. Usually because they make us feel good and have similar culture. This is why people of similar culture usually ends up living in the same places. This is why similar people become friends.

                  There are entire cities in Spain where only Nordic people live. And same thing in other countries. This is because they want to live near people with the same culture.

                  Trans people is something new and different, and it will take time before everyone is comfortable around them. This is not transphobia (irrational fear) or racism. This is human nature.

                  With time, it will become normal for people to have trans people around. But today it’s unusual and people need to adapt to it.

                  I’m arguing that to make it easier to get to know Trans people, we have every opportunity here on Lemmy for example. If everyone remains friendly.

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                Substitute a race-based term for trans in your statement - that “normal” people don’t feel comfortable around black people because they just want to avoid them - but it’s not racism.

                You might not feel comfortable around terms that have a specific meaning - like transphobia - but you should at least recognize that you’re redefining them to make yourself feel okay about them. What you’re describing is, in fact, transphobia. It is exactly analogous to feeling uncomfortable around black people but not wanting to label it racism.

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        I don’t actually like the term phobia either. People are not “irrationally afraid” . They just prefer hanging out with people they are used to.

        Weird how nobody ever gets this up in arms over terms like hydrophobic 🤔