my lover is a very high iq person (140) and he’s so awesome and yea has a lot of knowlegde about a lot of things, but recently i took an iq test and i got 85, it sucks, i told him that i hope that does not affect any aspect of our relationship!! and i’m not going to sugar code it but honestly i think that difference does cause a bit of trouble in our relationship because i am aware that my low iq may cause problems or it could make him feel annoyed/bothered!! what can i do to improve that?? i love him so much and i don’t want him to feel like i don’t understand him, sometiems i don’t a lot but, i always understand the general idea of the stuff he likes and i’m always seeking out more knowledge from him and the wider internet. thank you!!!
edit: i’ve always thought i was 100 or 150+ iq because i am interested in open source software, linux, foss, gnu, the fediverse, and reading, etc!! programming too
Did you take a real IQ test administered by a qualified human, or an internet IQ test?
Real IQ tests have shaky research behind them. Internet IQ tests are worse than garbage.
I am bothered by the relationship dynamic you describe. Look into signs of an abusive relationship.
Know that even if you are not smart, you still have worth. You can have and be successful at many jobs and can find a partner that will treat you with respect.