• Spellblade@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    The feedback I get is random, often times a week or more after an interaction. For example, I was watching a movie in a discord chat and people were making comments during the movie. I joined in with a few (fucking 3 comments) of my own and people laughed with me. I did not say anything else during the movie. A week later I get 3 messages saying I was a loud asshole during the movie. I joined a discord when someone was streaming and asked if I could watch. They said yes. I then get a message after I leave saying I was creepy and quiet. Like I don’t know what to make of this. This is what I mean by minefield. Social interaction has infinite rules and it is ridiculously easy to piss someone off by mistake.

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      1 year ago

      Are these interactions with the people you know and are close to you? Because these are not constructive criticisms of you… it would be far more helpful if someone who personally knows you and is trustworthy tells you if there are things that you might be unaware of… i can’t imagine why would being quiet be taken as creepy. I wouldn’t be giving much value to these incidents since they have no basis.

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        1 year ago

        I don’t have any friends, so I’ve been trying to make some online and irl, so no I don’t know them that well. The only people I talk to on a regular basis are my family and coworkers and they say there’s no issue. So idk what the problem is.