• empireOfLove@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    He is talking specifically about online dating, where judging by superficial looks is the whole goal and populations that are in it for the hookups are heavily male skewed and always will be. If you think that’s your only option then yes- it really is “so easy for women” and “men have it so hard”. That entire ecosystem is an absolute cesspit and always has been.

    If you date the “normal” way- aka, making friends and connections face to face, things haven’t really changed significantly and your chances are good if you just stay clean and personable. You just have to put actual effort into being a social human being, which is where the internet drags far too many of these kids off track.

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      1 year ago

      Exactly. You need to check all the boxes online before women will take the risk. To be clear, online dating is shit for them too. A lot of those matches, are people you wouldn’t want to match with once you get to know them.

      Off-line? Entirely different. Join a club, get to know people, they see you’re probably not going to kidnap them or that you have a nice personality and even the ugliest guy stands a chance of dating very nice women.