• stereofony@lemm.ee
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    From a fellow trans person: I know you mean well, but shame/ridicule is the least effective agent of change. This kind of attitude I hear not just from you but other leftist queer friends just straight up leaves a bad taste in people’s mouths and does nothing to convince folks of your cause, no matter how good your intentions are. To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

    Collective care and justice should be rooted in compassion, not denigration and superiority complexes.

    • ThereRisesARedStar [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      superiority complexes.

      TIL needing to mask for health reasons is a superiority complex.

      I’m not going to address any of the rest of your comment except to say, stop tone policing a shitpost. The point was to vent about a genuine frustration, not to convince anyone.

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        Sorry, but somewhere along the way in leftist circles, “don’t tone police me” became synonymous with “I’m allowed to be as shitty as I want to other people because of my trauma” and that’s the behavior I can’t get down with. Trauma is an explanation, not an excuse.

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      To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

      Wow. Everything you said before this swayed me but this is such an awesome statement that I had to say thanks for expanding my vernacular.