• aidan@lemmy.worldOP
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    1 year ago

    That’s true, but I feel like the internet is quick to brand people having moments of failure as abusive. Nobody is perfect, and I can’t expect my parents to be perfect. Imo, calling my mom abusive is far too extreme.

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      1 year ago

      Yes, in this world there is no one who wants what is good for you more than your parents. Many people forget that, if your parents have problems, you need to take care of them.

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        1 year ago

        I don’t agree with this in all cases.

        True, parents usually have a deeply ingrained emotional need to protect and nurture their children but:

        • Not all parents do. Narcissists have children all the time. When they do, they cloak their emotional vampirism in ‘love’ like they do in all relationships.
        • Even parents with the best intentions have to work HARD not to pass on their generational traumas, abuses, and bad habits.
        • Only the child can truly know what will fulfill them as a person. Parents often substitute what they wanted for their younger selves for the child’s best interest.

        For those still thinking I have no idea what I am talking about and you and your parents are different… please look into “enmeshment” for your own sake