This is a critical piece of the puzzle and I love that you pointed it out. Bare necessities aside (shelter, food, etc), we start out with a set of win conditions (from parents, friends, etc), but ultimately we can determine them ourselves. In most democracies, nobody can tell you how to live your life.
It’s heavy but I still miss when greentext got honest like this. I feel like there’s very few places left where people are “anonymous” and express their deepest thoughts.
Whether true or not, thank you for sharing op. I hope you got some help.