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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • Honestly? Kinda lonely. I’ll be 40 in a few months. I’m a woman, if the perspective matters .

    I was engaged to the man I thought I’d marry and have kids with, but it didn’t turn out to be the case, and although I learned how to choose better and what to look out for, I also wonder if I’m ever going to get to have a family of my own. It’s been 6 years now since that fell apart, and I had to do a lot in that time to get back onto my feet, but the few relationships I’ve had since then are fleeting. Men seem afraid of commitment now, and it’s hard not to completely fall to the idea that I’m just too old, which is what society is consistently screaming at me.

    I don’t feel old.

    I am tired of searching though. At some point I will get to where I’m too old and that makes me sad to think about.



  • Cycling on the road.

    On the one hand, biking is great and they should be able to bike on any road! And we should be careful when driving near them, it’s super scary being so unprotected and so close to metal speed bombs hurling around them.

    On the other hand, road bikers are fucking annoying, stay in your goddamn lane and stop slowing down traffic. I’m not reading your dumb hand signals, either!







  • I can currently cover a $1000 expense, but if something else happens that costs that much I’ll have to use my credit card, and if a third thing happens I’m fucked.

    My relationship with money isn’t good (“not wise” might be a better term), and now that I know my parents as an adult, I understand that both of them are terrible with money. Do I blame them? I try not to, but sometimes that’s hard when I see how they continue to make poor $$ choices. My mom constantly made over 6 figures for a good portion of her later life, but now can’t work, and she has nothing but social security to live off of. Through the years she’s used up all her retirement and savings a few times on things like saving houses she eventually loses anyway.

    My dad just dropped the news that he owes 80k to the IRS because he’s been pulling from his retirement for years now to sustain his lifestyle in a high-cost area.

    Myself? I didn’t really get my shit together financially until I was in my mid 30s. Mostly my fault, though there were a few things that happened outside of my control that forced me to “start over” financially. That’s life.

    My relationship with money now is respectful. I take the time and care to slowly work my way through understanding what to do and how to do it. I only have one credit card and it’s a low amount, so it can’t get wildly out of control but it’s there if I need it.

    Right now I’ve got around 1.5k in savings (not including my 401/Roth). My plan is to save up to 10k for an emergency fund and then start to invest what I save up after that.

    I listen to a lot of Caleb Hammer on YouTube. It helps, haha.







  • It really should be contextual. Every family is different, and each familial relationship is different.

    I’ve heard him say children don’t owe their parents money just because they’re their parents, and I’d agree with that statement. The parents are the ones who decide to have the baby, how to raise them, etc, so i think it’s wrong if parents think they’re entitled to their children’s money.

    But that doesn’t mean a child should never help their parents out financially. Morally, if you love your parents and can swing it, I think the right thing to do is help your parents if they need it. But there’s a big difference between asking a child to help and feeling entitled to a child’s help.