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I can’t think of worse debate performance. Nixon profusely sweating? Pretty bad, but at least he was coherent.
Mondale not being able to counter Regan’s age deflecting quip? Damn. That’s so tough one when the crowds turned.
The Gore eye roll? Well damn that sucks.
But this was a debate long fugue state. At best, some Trump previous incoherent ramblings are close, but still not as bad.
This was seriously bad. And everyone failing to see that and trying to minimize it is attempting and failing to gaslight everyone else.
There maybe no replacement available, but at least call a spade a spade.
You’re using rationality to defend your behavior instead of connecting emotionally around a fundamentally emotional issue. This doesn’t mean that her behavior was justified either, but rationality will only get you so far in solving this problem. Arguably, there’s an intimate and emotional reason you’re together. If you’re both not engaging in protecting and growing that first, then you’ll end in a you vs her situation.