She’s not. She’s just using that argument to not speak the truth: That it’s disgusting to not keep yourself clean and she’s ashamed of your (probably) poop stained underwear.
Teenagers truly can be disgusting. It’s hard to tell them though. Even harder is, when this applies to grown ups.
Growing up means to realise that even the hurtful thing’s people said to you, where probably just said because they care for you. (Not everyone cares obviously) Parents live their first life too.
There are enough voices and role models, there are books on how bad men have it, there are podcasts (Diary of the CEO) and philosophers talking about it. I stumble upon the topic at least every week. For example there is a great video of Mathew Hussey on the dating crisis and how troublesome it is for men. He is a dating coach for women and still making good content for men. It doesn’t seem to reach those who need it most, though. Could be trough algorithms, could be because they choose the hateful content with the “easy” solution (women are bad and need to be treated so) over the complex truth… That men had a privileged life for the last few hundred years, and now that women earn their own money they probably need to offer more than finance. By the way it is crazy how the world developed. Every household basically needs to double earn to survive so… yes. Financing is not the thing most women are looking for anymore and men are not even being able to give it. There are political and social problems we all have to fight (together we could even do it but it is easier if we fight each other for those in power). Men suffer from patriarchy the same as women do. The difference is that now the privilege is gone and the gameplay changed, while some wealthy and reckless men pretend that it’s about “them not trying hard enough”. It’s like people in America still believing they could become a millionaire if they try hard enough and trump is a “financial genius” for being rich… Instead of just being a lucky son of a rich man. It seems to be a tradition to step down on others instead of facing the truth… Some wealthy idiots are ruining our world for all of us. Instead of feeling helpless about this fact it’s “the immigrants”, “the feminists”, or what else…
Did you listen to a podcast when you found out? 😏
Of two German dudes? 😅
There are some kinds of walks that are just a turn off for me, and I’m not talking about ministry of silly walks.
Just if the guys have no tension in their body, no self esteem at all or walk as if they’d explode if their peepee touches either side of the legs, wide legged… Maybe one could call it " the baggy jeans walk"? Actually it’s hard to describe, but maybe you get it?
Yes it’s definitely healthier. But now that you mention Schnaps…
Sometimes, just sometimes I feel a little sad about traditions getting lost. Where I’m from it has something of “taking care of guests”, that you hardly can replace without alcohol.
For example “Christbaumloben”, a tradition we practiced. It means going from house to house at Christmas, telling people that their tree looks nice and getting Schnaps. It’s just a nice way of connecting to people you often don’t see anymore, maybe because you moved away from home or so. Impossible when nobody’s drinking.
We need new traditions that don’t require drinking.
Good point. Funny how legalization of one drug can make the dangers of another more obvious to society.
Yeah I got the same impression, Germany here as well.
And I wasn’t sure if it’s just a thing in my friends group and if it has to do with a certain age and not being able to drink because of pregnancy and having kids that normalized it. That’s why I asked.
I heard of the spooky two days hangover by some my age, but never experienced it myself. Still I lost motivation for drinking, somehow.
I once even made the tofu myself. That was a mess. But an interesting experiment. 😅
How to handle criticism. To take the best from it, learn from it, try to become more of what is important to yourself and leave the rest.
It’s either not taking it at all, thinking everyone is wrong… or it’s giving it to much attention. Like thinking the opinion of people that you don’t respect at all, that you don’t even like counts too. You’ll never be right for everyone. But being criticised by people that care to make your life better is actually precious.