• Album@lemmy.ca
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    Kids ARE very resilient. That’s the problem. Therapists know this despite the joke.

    As a kid you’re so resilient you’ll accept anything as “that’s the way it is” and so a child will shape their themselves around that world view. Then they grow up with a twisted view of how things are and it requires therapy to unlearn that.

    It’s like scar tissue on a wound. You healed but you’re not quite the same. That wound is now less sensitive to feeling in it’s environment and can even be more susceptible to further wounding.

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      At the same time, they are also incredibly fragile. The wrong words at the wrong time can have an affect on them for a lifetime.

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      Yup. Like having to re-break and reset a bone that didn’t set correctly. Technically it healed, but it healed in the warped way it was left, and to bring it back to normal you basically have to walk it through its trauma again and let it heal the correct way.