• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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    8 months ago

    Yup. My coworker’s wife lost a baby after announcing it to me and other management (he was excited), and it was well within the first trimester. I felt really bad for him, and the best I could do is not bring it up and just focus on work.

    It’s hard to place yourself into someone else’s position, so if in doubt, it’s usually best to stay quiet.

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      8 months ago

      I cooked at a restaurant with a guy who had something similar happen a couple years before I started there. His nickname was angry johny because he was so irritable. Whenever tears in heaven by Clapton came on he would would yell at the manager to skip the song and dissappear into the walk in. He ended up quitting for other reasons but a year or two later I ran into him at a bar and he and the same lady had a healthy birth and all his anger melted away and he turned into a really rad dood. He even apologized to me about his behavior in said kitchen.

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        8 months ago

        Can’t help but think this why we use to have fertility rituals.

        Some genes mixes are less compatible than others

        Marry the one you can easily procreate with.

        I know we’re not supposed to say it but consider where we’re posting here, a series a miscarriages actually is your fault, technically your genes faults but you are your genetic code.

        Think how much hatred this fuck put out there because he chose a nearly incompatible mat.

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          8 months ago

          Honestly I don’t even know where to begin with this comment. Like, blaming people for their miscarriage is a taboo and for good reason. It doesn’t matter how right you might be, it is still wrong on so many levels.

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            8 months ago

            Yep. But it’s fun to stop and realize how fucking hilariously bizarre we are as a species; pretending we’re highly evolved logical beings.

            We each make our existences more miserable out of politeness. A concept that has shifted and lurched over humanity’s existence.

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            8 months ago

            I am honored.

            I would like to thank all of the unviable embryos.

            We could not have had this moment together without them.