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          Do you just assume autistic cause people are weird?

          Not every autistic person is bad at social. And as an actual autistic person who wouldn’t dream of acting like that, I take offense to people dubbing everything they find odd or socially unacceptable as autism.

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              Yes, I’m well aware of that. I went through the whole diagnosis process.

              But, it’s not always a symptom. You don’t have to tick every box in the symptom list. Some autistic people have that symptom, some don’t. None autistic people can have social issues too, it gets kinda tiring seeing every social issue being labelled as autism.

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            It’s probably because you’re autistic that you only think of this as odd and not for the specific case being presented.

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              I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn’t think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn’t a socially ‘acceptable’ response.

              Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it’s just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.

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    Poor anon. Should’ve said that research found miscarriages to be more common than previously believed and that this specific one likely wasn’t the first and definitely not the last.
    It’s these little details that make all the difference…

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      Depending on the woman, this will either help, or shatter them.

      The actual odds are around 50% self abort. Mostly within the first month. 10-20% happen between 1 and 3 months. Critically, almost none of the risk is down to the mother. It just happens.

      I couldn’t get the fear out of my wife’s mind on this. All I could do was quantify it, and lay the groundwork that it wasn’t her fault if the pregnancy failed.

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      “I know this is awful, but it’ll probably happen again.”

      I don’t know, chief. Probably not the best approach.

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    Women, “I miscarried last week, my husband and I have been trying for years and we really thought this was it.”

    Men, “You think that’s bad? Have you been to the DMV?”.

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      Yup. My coworker’s wife lost a baby after announcing it to me and other management (he was excited), and it was well within the first trimester. I felt really bad for him, and the best I could do is not bring it up and just focus on work.

      It’s hard to place yourself into someone else’s position, so if in doubt, it’s usually best to stay quiet.

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        I cooked at a restaurant with a guy who had something similar happen a couple years before I started there. His nickname was angry johny because he was so irritable. Whenever tears in heaven by Clapton came on he would would yell at the manager to skip the song and dissappear into the walk in. He ended up quitting for other reasons but a year or two later I ran into him at a bar and he and the same lady had a healthy birth and all his anger melted away and he turned into a really rad dood. He even apologized to me about his behavior in said kitchen.

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          Can’t help but think this why we use to have fertility rituals.

          Some genes mixes are less compatible than others

          Marry the one you can easily procreate with.

          I know we’re not supposed to say it but consider where we’re posting here, a series a miscarriages actually is your fault, technically your genes faults but you are your genetic code.

          Think how much hatred this fuck put out there because he chose a nearly incompatible mat.

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      No topic is completely off limits to jokes, but some combinations of joke and audience sure as hell are.

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    Lol anon’s a dumbass. I work in healthcare and miscarriages are pretty common and for most people it’s pretty easy to get pregnant again, by the story she wasn’t admitted to the hospital so the pregnancy couldn’t be very far. So it’s not that big of a deal. That said, even if it isn’t a big deal if you see someone crying you don’t crack jokes lol. Have some tact and empathy. All that if the story was real, which it isn’t.

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      Where I live, living with your parent’s is cheaper and better economically even your whole life, after getting married, having kids, …

      I have cousins where 4 generations of familly live together in the same house with no issues.

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        4 generations of familly live together in the same house with no issues.

        with no issues

        Hmmm