Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as “whatever you say you fucking dumbass” and it pisses me off.

And ya, I’m aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let’s see em ya jerks!!!

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    It really depends on the age of the sender.

    30s and younger: Fairly dismissive response. Not outright insulting but pretty rude.

    40s and older: genuinely meant as an earnest acknowledgement of your message.

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    This is literally my “message received” emote.

    If people thought it was rude, I’d be fired by now.

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    It depends on what it’s in response to.

    Dinner at 6 at Greasy Spoon?
    👍 
    

    Entirely reasonable.

    Should we do the project in COBOL?
    👍 
    

    Entirely unreasonable, but not rude.

    My cat just died.
    👍 
    

    Rude.

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      This is the best answer. Also, even in some serious case the thumbs up is interpreted as “noted, all good”. It does not mean positive action, just saying “noted”.

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      I guess I just picture a chat as a textual representation of a conversation and if I said to you, want to get dinner at 6, and you replied 👍 in real life, I would cancel the dinner lmao

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        I see where you’re coming from now. In most English-speaking cultures, it is not conventional to use hand gestures as a substitute for spoken words in a conversation. Breaking social conventions for no apparent reason is at least potentially rude.

        You’re translating those conventions directly to chat. Chat is not spoken word, and it is conventional to use emojis, at least the really unambiguous ones, instead of typed words in chat some of the time. People do not usually do this with any rude or insulting intent.

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          I appreciate the level headed reply in the sea of insanity I have started with this thread.

          Honestly, I don’t interpret it as something malicious ever either, like I don’t think everyone is actually telling me to fuck myself, it just reads that way to me.

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        You saying you’d straight up cancel a dinner because someone gave you a thumbs up instead of a verbal response genuinely blew my mind lmao. Ngl fam, that’s a bit extreme. I give people the thumbs up all the time, and imagining someone becoming so upset at me for doing it that they’d cancel our dinner together is insane to me. I couldn’t be friends with such a person without feelings like so was constantly walking on eggshells.

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          It was an exageration my guy, as with all my reactions to the 👍 in this thread. It does not make me truly angry, I’m being a bit silly because it’s fun.

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            So I wasn’t sure if you were an asshole, but based on this comment, I’m am not certain you are.

            I say this because it’s fun for me and I’ve been taught to speak at my audience’s level.

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            Maybe try not habitually exaggerating? People who don’t know you are just gonna take you at your word.

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        I do not think the majority of people would agree that chat is a textual representation of a conversation. It’s its own thing and this is evident by slang, leetcode, emoticons, emoji, and euphemisms (🍆💦). How people talk over text is completely different than how they speak in real life, especially when they’re typing fast.

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        If you are mid drinking or chewing and somebody asks you a question, a thumbs up is perfectly acceptable as a yes. Otherwise its a bit odd, but not offensive. Its like a +1 affirmation

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        You and I are very different then. If I tell someone that dinner is at 6 and they give me a thumbs up, I would interpret that as “I acknowledge that I heard you and have no objections. It is not worth taking my attention off of whatever I am doing.”

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        It’s probably one of the auto responses on their side when the text alert pops up. Maybe they were driving or I. The middle of something and it was just easier for them to respond this way.

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        It’s pretty clear the issue here is you. Specifically, your reaction. The solution to than can only come from you. The world will not bend to you and the world is not responsible for making you feel certain things, that’s all you.

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    No. Your reading of it is unusual, in most contexts. It almost always means “agreement, and I have nothing of substance to add”.

    It can be rude if the thing you’ve said should warrant a substantial response. Like if you wrote “my brother just died in a car wreck”, a thumbs up (or probably any emoji) would be an inappropriate response. Heavier stuff warrants whole words.

    But if it’s like “Can you get cat food at the store? The kind we always get” then a thumbs up is an acceptable shorthand for "yes, I understand and commit to this request "

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    Nope, because I use it myself. But I don’t use it as a conversational tool though. I just use it as confirmation that I received and read what you sent but it isn’t necessary to continue the conversation. For example, I’m already in a conversation with someone and the assumption is I need them to send me a file. When they finally send it over, I just react with a thumbs up to confirm I got it. Context is important. The emoji is only as meaningful as the context of the conversation it is in.

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    It’s a pretty simple “acknowledged” to me. It’s a “I’ve not just seen your message, I’ve read it, and I have no further comments”.

    I don’t think I’ve ever interpreted it as rude.

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    I use the 👍react to show that I’ve seen the message but don’t need to respond. Usually in the case of someone sending a money transfer or something like that.

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      It has also been ruled in court (I think in Australia but I dont remember for certain) that it is legally binding as a verbal agreement.

      Basically a farmer sent a message to a wholesaler saying “Hey, I need to double my stock feed order for next quarter” or something like that, the supplier sent back a thumbs up. So the delivery arrived and it was only the regular amount. The farmer had to buy the extra amount at retail prices and it cost him tens of thousands more, so he sued for damages. The supplier argued that text messages and thumbs up werent the correct ordering procedure and that he wasnt liable, the court ruled effectively that “Then you should have said that. A thumbs up is a general term of positive response to a question or statement and in this case constitutes acceptance of a verbal agreement” and had to cough up.

      Found the case, it was Canada and the farmer F-ed up not the supplier.

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      Exactly. Everyone at work uses it to cut the chain of “Looks good”, “Thanks”, “No problem”, etc short. If you’re interpreting an emoji as an attack you might have anger issues.

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    If I react to a message with a 👍 it’s innocuous, but if I reply to a message 👍 it’s actually me being passive aggressive like I can’t be bothered to type a real response

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      Yes! I just responded with something similar lol that’s exactly how I use it and how I would take it

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    Context, it is the “K” of Emojis, acceptable as quick response, insulting in any serious conversation

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      Okay is one of the coolest words ever. It started sort of as a “meme” speak thing around 1900 (I don’t remember exactly, may have been older). They would take phrases then spell them differently then abbreviate the misspelling. So okay the word was originally OK the acronym for “oll korrect” which was “all correct.”

      A similar thing would be like saying “acey” for “AC” for “all correct”. I’ve thought about trying to make it a thing with my friends but it feels a little too abstract.

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    Depends on who’s saying it and to what, and in what manner (message reaction, its own separate text).

    “Hey who wants pizza tonight?” in the group text.

    Bunch of👍reactions mixed in with some 🍕 and 🕺

    That’s normal and people agreeing with you.

    “Hey could you pick up some toilet paper on the way home?”

    👍 reaction.

    That’s a neutral kind of acknowledgement.

    “Hey man, that was pretty fucked what you said back at the party. I think the others want to talk to you about it.”

    “👍”

    That’s rude and dismissive, and not just an acknowledgement text.

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      First of all - I’m shocked that anyone would use a thumb up like in your last example. That’s obviously extremely rude and disrespectful.

      Second of all - I’m shocked that some people can’t see the difference of the usage of the thumb up and believe that it’s always rude, regardless of context.

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        It’s a little bit of a generational/cultural gap, I think! Like how Ok. and Ok... are fully normal to boomers, but anyone millennial and younger are going to read that as being short, or as an ominous trailing off compared to the neutral, no-caps-no-punctuation kk or ok.

        I think children up through the younger end of millennials are just more likely to give neutral-to-lightly-positive acknowledgement in other ways, like 🫡or ✅ or 🥰 or 💯. 👍 is reserved by some for lower enthusiasm or even a restrained, mild annoyance.